The signs of domestic violence
Domestic violence happens when someone is physically, mentally, or sexually abused by a family member or partner. Domestic violence often begins with threats or emotional abuse. This kind of relationship can harm a person’s physical and mental health.
You may have experienced domestic violence if
- You ever feel unsafe at home
- Your partner has ever physically hurt you
- Your partner has ever threatened to hurt you or someone close to you
- Your partner has ever forced you to have sex or made you do sexual things you didn't want to
- Your partner has ever tried to control you, attacked you verbally, or blamed you for things you did not do
- You have ever felt afraid of your partner or ex-partner
- Your partner has ever stalked, followed, or monitored you
Domestic violence and HIV
Domestic violence is a serious issue, but it’s even more serious for people with HIV. That’s because along with the risk of physical and emotional harm, domestic violence can make it hard for people with HIV to stay healthy.
Domestic violence can
- Make chronic medical conditions worse
- Make sticking with HIV treatment hard to do
- Expose people to unsafe sex
- Lead to physical and mental problems such as:
- Depression
- Anxiety
- Suicide
- Eating disorders
- Alcoholism
- Substance abuse
In addition to the effect domestic violence can have on a person’s health, it can also have serious effects on the well-being of people with HIV.
Domestic violence can lead to the loss of
- Housing
- Financial support
- Contact with supportive family and friends
- Custody of children
- Access to healthcare or medications
Minimize Your Risk
• Do your homework- find out as much as you can about the person you’re dating
• Cut your losses- Leave an abuser the first time abuse happens
• Deal with your past- If you have been abused in the past, get help so the past doesn’t repeat itself
• Keep in touch with your support network- Don't isolate yourself from existing relationships
• Stay informed- Even if you think you’ll never need it, know what you need to do about domestic violence
Getting help
No one deserves to be abused—the violence is not your fault and only your partner can choose to stop his or her abusive behavior. The situation can be very difficult, but it’s important to remember that you are not alone. There are options and resources available to help you end the violence and take care of yourself—and treating your HIV—easier. Your doctor, friends, and family are all concerned about your safety and well-being and want to help.
Stay safe- Make your safety and your children’s safety your top priority
Have a plan- If you leave, don't forget your HIV drugs, other medications, medical records, birth certificate, school records, credit cards, checkbook, money, etc.
Document- Get medical attention for and photos of any injuries. Keep a journal of the dates of all threats and violent events. Have photos signed and dated by a medical or law enforcement personnel if possible
Get help- Don't try to do this alone. You can request a police escort when leaving. Go to friends, family, an emergency room or a local shelter.
If you are in an abusive relationship or think you may be an abuser, it is important to seek help. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY). You can also visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline online at www.ndvh.org.Please consult Full Prescribing Information, including boxed WARNING, Medication Guide, and Important Safety Information for VIRAMUNE.
